Finding Something to Do (Daytrotter Sessions) by Hellogoodbye
“What you’re about to open up here is a new experience, a way of hearing this Huntington Beach, California band that calls itself Hellogoodbye, other than the one that you were expecting. It’s an experience that goes easy on, almost absent of the group’s electro-clash pop sound that it’s been heard and fond of charming us with for almost 10 years now. This session and the three brand new songs found in it - some of which were written in a scary house in Big Bear, out in the mountains and woods on an all-dudes hang-out weekend - are an awakening to the pure elements of songwriting and musical prowess that this crew of young men have within them. ” — Sean Moeller
“Creativity is essentially a lonely art. An even lonelier struggle. To some a blessing. To others a curse. It is in reality the ability to reach inside yourself and drag forth from your very soul an idea.”—Lou Dorfsman (via ipen)
This is another one of those articles where you really should make some time to follow the link and read the entire thing. It’s quite interesting:
…Beginning in our late teenage years and early 20s, we develop and internalize a broad, autobiographical narrative about our lives, spelling out who we were, are, and might be in the future, says Dan McAdams, a psychologist at Northwestern and author of The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By. The story is peppered with key scenes—high points, low points, and turning points—and a first experience can be any of these. “These experiences give us natural ways to divide up the stories of our lives—episodic markers that help us make sense of how our life has developed over time,” McAdams explains.
Part of why firsts affect us so powerfully is that they’re seared into our psyches with a vividness and clarity that doesn’t fade as other memories do. You may not remember the 4th real kiss you ever had, or the 20th—but you almost certainly remember your first. This is known as the primacy effect.
When people are asked to recall memories from college, 25 percent of what they come up with draws from the first two or three months of their freshman year, says David Pillemer, a psychologist at the University of New Hampshire. What people remember most vividly are events like saying goodbye to their parents, meeting their roommates for the first time, and their first college class. In fact, when psychologists ask older people to recall the events of their lives, the ones they most often name are those that occurred in their late teens and early 20s. We’re also better at recalling the world events, music, books, and movies—as well as the cultural events such as the Academy Awards or the World Series—that happened during the early parts of our lives. This “early-life memory bump” occurs because that’s when we have the most first experiences, explains Jefferson Singer, a psychologist at Connecticut College who studies autobiographical memory.
Consider a first kiss or sexual encounter. These can generate sensations so new and unfamiliar that the experience feels almost unreal. “Someone can be a primitive neophyte when it comes to writing, but when you get them to talk about their first kiss, you see eloquence, poetry, metaphor, synecdoche, and hyperbole,” says John Bohannon III, a psychologist at Butler University who studies first kisses. That sensation of disembodiment—pleasurable during a kiss, aversive when you first suffer the death of a loved one—is common in first experiences, as are feelings of heightened reality or unreality.
Intense emotional sensations etch first experiences deeply into memory, creating what psychologists call “flashbulb memories.” Memories like our first kiss or tryst, our first glimpse of the ocean, our first day of school, or the birth of a first child engage all our senses simultaneously.
Besides emotional engagement, these experiences also pack a heavy dose of novelty. “Novelty drives up dopamine and norepinephrine, brain systems associated with focus and paying attention and rewards,” explains anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?
A first romantic relationship has one critical novel element: “It’s the only time you’re ever in love where you’ve never had your heart broken,” says Laura Carpenter, a sociologist at Vanderbilt University and author of Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences. “You can have better relationships after that, but there’s never again one where you’ve never been hurt .”
“Powerful first relationships can stamp a template in your mind that gets activated in later interactions,”says Susan Andersen, a psychologist at NYU who studies mental representations of significant others. If you meet someone who reminds you even a little of an ex—whether it’s a physical resemblance or a similarity in attitudes, gestures, voice, word choice, or interests—it may engage the representation you have in your memory, says Andersen. The effect is called transference. And since your first love, by virtue of its novelty and emotional significance, is potentially your most salient, it may well be the representation that’s summoned when you meet someone new, forging the lens through which you see new relationships.
It’s not just a person’s qualities that get transferred in your mind—your old feelings, motivations, and expectations are also reactivated. If someone new reminds you of an ex you still love, Andersen’s studies show, you’ll like that new person more, want to be close to them, and even start repeating the behaviors you engaged in with your ex…